Drinking Someone Else’s Poison

“Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will get sick.” – Some Person Who’s Wiser Than Me

I think I need to forgive the teachers in my life, from my past. Not all. But a lot. I always (usually?) felt stupid and foolish, embarrassed, and I was such an outcast. There are family and friends I need to forgive, too.

Think I need to explore some of these feelings that are bubbling up, some of the memories flickering in my thoughts (stuff I had completely forgotten about)…forgive, and then let that junk go.

– Written in February 2014
as I pondered unforgiveness I was holding on to

Neon Orange

Compassion and Empathy

Don’t let your heart grow hard.

Or cold.

Don’t self-medicate.

Grainy Day

Even if it hurts, allow yourself to feel. Don’t numb the pain.

This is how we grow in compassion and empathy.

Perfect Love

An act of love prompted by guilt isn’t really love at all. It’s selfishness, to ease the guilt we’re experiencing.

But real love isn’t selfish. It’s selfless, putting the well-being of the other person ahead of our own feelings or well-being. This cannot be accomplished through guilt, because of the way guilt-based motives are inherently self-focused; meaning, the focus of this “act of love” inevitably becomes us, ourselves, instead of the the person we’re supposed to be helping/loving.

Love also can’t be accomplished through fear. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.Black and White Graph